Codependency

Things started really well.

You truly fell hard for your partner.

They seemed like the perfect fit – funny, good-looking, and captivating.

They made you feel good and lucky to have found them; even your friends were envious.

Now, you want them to make a change.

Now, more than anything, you want your partner to make a change.

You want them to quit drinking and flirting with people, and to start treating you better.

You wish things would return to how they were in the beginning.

It occupies so much of your time.

You can’t stop thinking about it, dreaming about what it would be like if they grew and changed.

You spend more time in the fantasy of who you think they could be and less time in the reality of who they are.

The reality is much different from the fantasy.

You two are fighting all the time. You question everything they do and worry they are lying to you.

You obsessively look for clues that they aren’t honest, checking their phone if you can.

They blow you off, dismiss your fears and concerns, and belittle or ignore you.

You feel deeply unhappy in the relationship. Your friends and family don’t even know how bad it is.

How I can help

I utilize both cognitive therapies (CBT, ACT) and therapies that get at our subconscious (EMDR, somatic work) to help you envision and understand how life can be different.

We will work together to understand what parts are in your control and what parts are not, why ending or working on the relationship might be so hard to do, and give you tools and the language to make the changes that will transform your life.

This doesn’t have to be the end of your story.

Healing can happen.

You can live without the anxiety of worrying about another person’s behaviors.

You can create your own peace and protect it. Other people’s reactions and behaviors won’t change that.

Contact me at (813) 501-2169 for a free 15-minute consultation to start your path to healing today.